Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Rational vs. Irrational

My husband and I have been very happily married. For years now while I have wondered about my own fertility, I have always been of the mind that if I do end up being infertile and can’t have children after reasonably trying with intervention, I will not let it devour me… or us. Easier said than done, right? But, I am still doing my best to stick to that and this is coming from someone who has wanted to be a mother her entire life. I won’t let our fertility journey devastate our relationship.

Finding out that you are fertility challenged certainly doesn’t boost your spirits. This is probably one of the most difficult things that we have faced in our time together, but I wouldn’t want to go through this with anyone else. It certainly stings to have to be in emotional pain with my best friend, but it would be worse if he wasn’t by my side.

From an analytical perspective, it is interesting to look at the various facets of infertility. There is the emotional piece, the physical piece, the coming to a consensus on many important decisions piece, and there can certainly be a financial component. As much as my irrational self wants to go to any lengths to have a baby even if it means bankrupting us, the rational part understands that this is a challenge that cannot ruin us. We must come out of it as a team and be ready to face the future together. Chin up!


  1. For some reason it won't let me comment on your post today. Anyway...

    Thanks for commenting on my blog - I'm sorry you're going through infertility challenges as well, but am happy to share the knowledge I've gained from 4 years at it... The online IF community is great and been a huge help to me.

    I hope you manage to distract yourself between now and your August appointment!

  2. Thank you! Which online IF community are you referring to? I just joined mdc.

  3. For me it's twitter and blogging - I haven't done any of the message boards, although I just joined PVED now that we're on the donor egg path.