The “what ifs” are always in my head. What if we take advantage of everything our insurance has to offer and we still don’t have babies? Are we going to pay tens of thousands of dollars out of pocket or are we going to resign to our fate? My initial thought is that if insurance stops covering any of the procedures or we hit a fertility dead end, we are going to go to adoption. The way that I see it is if we funnel tens of thousands of dollars into fertility treatments, it’s for a chance to have a baby and that chance may or may not work out. But if we put the money toward adoption, we’ll end up with a baby. Sure there are options in between: surrogate mothers, donor sperm and eggs etc etc. I just don’t see us going down any of those roads.
Of course, adoption has its own difficulties. I read somewhere the other day that 35% of couples experience false starts with adoption. However, I’ve never met someone who wanted to adopt and wasn’t able to. I have met people who went through years of infertility and never had kids.
Anyway, I’ve always wanted to adopt even if we were able to have biological kids. Maybe that is our fate.